You may have thought there was no other choice, and that with a child, your life would have been over. Maybe you were pressured into it by family and friends. Regardless, you clicked on this article because you are or someone you know is the parent of an aborted child, and you want to know how post-abortive parents can find healing. I am here to tell you that healing after an abortion is possible for everyone and how you can do it.

STEP 1: Are you truly remorseful?

Ask yourself this question and think about how you truly feel. Do you genuinely regret having an abortion? If you could go back in time, would you make the same choice? Would you encourage others to have an abortion? Would you apologize to your child, if possible? If your answer to the last question was yes, then you are ready for the second step.

STEP 2: Seek forgiveness in Christ and apologize to your baby.

Christ will be your ultimate source of peace as you heal from abortion. Read about His forgiveness throughout the Bible. He is ready and willing to forgive you—He died on the cross for you so that you could be forgiven. He loves you and wants you to seek Him as you heal. Your new journey begins with His forgiveness.

Your baby loves you despite the decision you made. Your baby knew the sound of your heartbeat and what it felt like when you would laugh, and there is nothing your baby loves more. Apologize to your baby, and let him or her, along with Christ, be your strength as you embark on this new journey.

STEP 3: Educate yourself.

Learn about the reality of what abortion actually is: both how the procedure is performed and the humanity of the preborn child. Learn about Planned Parenthood’s lies behind prenatal careultrasounds, and about how they cover up child sex trafficking. There are thousands of resources at your disposal, along with your own testimony, that will make a difference in the pro-life movement.

STEP 4: Join the movement and tell your story.

You are now educated, forgiven, and ready to become an activist. Use your story to impact the lives of others. There is truly nothing like hearing a testimony firsthand. You have the power to save lives.

Get involved at your local Crisis Pregnancy Center; they are always in need of volunteers. Find the one closest to you here.

You can also get involved with a variety of organizations, including us, the Human Defense Initiative. There is also Students for Life of AmericaLive Action40 Days of LifeHeartbeat InternationalSilent No More, and the list goes on and on!

Although you may be feeling guilty and ashamed, there is a way out. There is a way to turn your pain into beauty. Remember: there is a merciful and loving God who wants to forgive you. Turn to Him. You are not condemned and you are not hopeless. You are the voice of our movement. You are loved by many, including the Father above.

If you need further post-abortive assistance, contact Human Defense Initiative on social media, visit the Hope After Abortion website, or call 1-866-482-LIFE (5433), a confidential after abortion hotline. You are not alone; there is hope for you.

The views and opinions expressed in these articles are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official position of Human Defense Initiative.